The only way to avoid adding (and thus depleting) your own energy to
the disruptors is to withold your replies.
I have been practicing this for several years, with a few unfortunate
lapses and I can attest to the fact that it works.
But, it requires real self discipline, so brace your self and
practice, practice, practice.
This will also be my only post on the subject. Cheers...\Stef
>From Dan's message Sun, 13 Jun 1999 11:56:37 -0400:
}
}Actually folks, there is an easier way:
}If you feel that 'someone' is disruptive, ignore them. Engaging them
}in debate is counter-productive and you lose. Debating whether or not
}to ban/shun/censure/censor them again disrupts from your own agenda
}and puts them and their agenda(s) in the spotlight.
}
}My option is very easy: ignoring someone requires no effort, except
}for the suppressing the urge to respond to someone's outrageous
}statements. Believe me, it much easier than quitting smoking. After
}a day or two you will no longer feel the urge to hit the reply button.
}And you will feel empowerment as an individual. This shift happens one
}person at a time. No consensus is required. No debate. You have all
}had the debate inside your heads anyway.
}
}Think about it.
}
}BTW. This is my one and only post on the subject.
}
}
}"Kevin M. Kelly" wrote:
}>
}> John B. Reynolds wrote:
}> >If it comes to a vote, I will vote against removing them. I
}> >believe that we
}> >should resist the natural impulse to define criticism out of existence by
}> >declaring it "disruptive".
}>
}> I agree! If this organization cannot strong withstand criticism then we
}> haven't got much of a chance in the "real world."
}>
}> Who's to decide what's "disruptive"--we are not always in agreement on "the
}> fact" or "the point."
}>
}> Email is a terrible means of developing interpersonal relationships. Anyone
}> else ever had to get on the telephone to clarify the apparent hostile tone
}> of an email message?
}>
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